I never documented my other two pregnancies and since this is our last one, I want to remember all the details of the last 9 months. The good … and the bad.
This pregnancy was not an easy one. Yes, it was planned. I get that question a lot! Hubby and I talked about it and decided to go for it over the summer. It’s never taken us long to get pregnant and this time was no different. We found out in July and told the girls right away. They were over the moon! My oldest has had a ‘baby’ on her Christmas list for a couple of years and we finally made her dream come true. The hardest part was keeping the secret for so long. Two whole months!!
We told my side of the family at my mom’s 70th birthday party in August. We made her a scrapbook with a page for all the grandchildren and stuck a picture of our first ultrasound at the very end without telling her who was pregnant. All it said was “Coming soon. Grandchild #10!” It was so fun to see everyone looking around trying to figure out who it was! This is a video my 14 year old took. I’d recommend turning the volume down. There was a lot of squealing!!
We let the news trickle out slowly because it was still pretty early. And then finally, when the girls started school in September, I made a social media announcement and the cat was officially out of the bag.
It was really sweet and funny to read people’s reactions. The thing is, I have always said that I would never have another. We were at a point where the kids were older and we had our freedom back. We could leave the girls home to make a quick stop at the grocery store or they could go to the bathroom in a restaurant by themselves while we finished our meal. Another baby and we’d be back in the trenches. Not to mention we’re both over 40 now! I was scared I wouldn’t have the energy for all those sleepless newborn nights and the toddlers years.
Every time we were out and saw parents with little ones, my husband and I looked at each other with a longing that we never had before. We missed those days. As hard as they were. It was especially prevalent when Jaime turned 10. Something about double digits. It was really hard for me. She wasn’t my baby anymore! So we talked about it and we were so excited to start this new adventure.
I don’t think I ever imagined that this pregnancy would be as adventurous as it’s been though. In the first trimester, I didn’t really eat much. Lots of indigestion and nausea. I also went through what I thought was a painful bladder infection only to find out that my bladder actually had a kink in it which wouldn’t allow me to empty it fully. It was SO PAINFUL and of course it happened while my husband was away. On one of the worst days, I had an extended family photo session with about 15 people and I had to wear a pad in case I had to ‘go’. So embarrassing, but the family was traveling from out of state and couldn’t reschedule. It was awful for me, but the pictures turned out beautiful.
The next day I made it to the doctor and had to be catheterized right there in the office. The nurse could not believe the amount of urine that came out!! Sorry if this isn’t what you expected to read, but it’s real life.
I wish I could say the rest of my pregnancy has been without incident. When we went to the 20 week anatomy scan to find out the baby’s sex we were told there was a spot on the baby’s liver. A calcification they called it. “Nothing to worry about,” everyone said. So I didn’t worry. But they wanted to see me for some additional ultrasounds to make sure nothing changed. That it didn’t change in size or that more didn’t show up. And each time, before the appointment, a little part of me worried. Maybe because I’m an ‘older mom’ there is something wrong. Maybe I did something – or didn’t do something – that caused this. Thankfully every ultrasound showed that nothing changed. Even this last one at 35 weeks. So, she’ll have one more ultrasound when she’s born to determine where exactly this calcification is and that’s it. Again, nothing to worry about. Funny thing to tell a pregnant woman who is carrying life inside of her!
In my last trimester, it’s been a struggle to get a good night’s sleep. I’ve been dealing with restless leg syndrome, leg cramps, and even had what I think might have been an anxiety attack twice over the last few months. I have been going to the chiropractor to help ease some of the pain, but even that’s been hard to do in these last few weeks.
Now I’m just trying to take it day by day. There’s still so much to do. I’ve been washing baby clothes like crazy and pretty soon I’ll pack my hospital bag. Hubby has one more business trip next week and then it’s time to hunker down and wait for baby!
What was your pregnancy like?? Did you have any unexpected issues come up? Share in the comments!